Giving a meaningful, moving eulogy can be a nerve-wracking situation for even the most accomplished public speaker, but it need not be. How can you summarize someone's life in a few short minutes, while being both somber and funny at the same time? Writing and delivering a eulogy is a therapeutic tool to help deal with your grief, and being chosen to give a eulogy is an honour. Here are some tips for writing and delivering an eloquent and memorable eulogy.

  • Gather information. Talk with family members, close friends and co-workers to get important information on the deceased.  Some important information to include in the eulogy would be the persons family members and other close relationships, their education/career, hobbies or special interests, places the person lived or traveled to and any special accomplishments.
  • Organize your thoughts. Jot down your ideas by whatever means are most comfortable and familiar to you. Create an outline of your speech, and fill in the information that you gathered about the person.
  • Write it down.  Writing it all down allows you to include and remember every detail you wanted in your eulogy. When you bring a copy of your eulogy to the podium make sure it is easy to read, print it out in a large font or if it is hand-written leave a few spaces between the lines. Keep your time constraints in mind.  It’s best to keep things on the short side, especially if there are other speakers.
  • Review and Revise. Your first draft will not be the last. When you think you are done, take a break and review it later; that will be the time to make any necessary revisions.
  • Practice, Practice, Practice. Read over your eulogy several times in order to become familiar with it. Practice in front of a mirror, read it over to some friends or family and have them give you feedback. Become familiar with your speech so you can recite it without making it look like you’re reading from a script. The more you practice the more comfortable you will be. 
  • Make them laugh, but be respectful.  There is room for humour in your eulogy. Fondly remember a story about the person to which most of the people in the audience can relate.  Keep it appropriate as there will be children and the elderly there who may not share the same sense of humour. Laughter is truly the best medicine, and some well placed humour will help people cope and will bring back fond memories of the deceased.
  • Don’t be afraid to show emotion. Funerals are an extremely emotional event, nobody expects you not to shed a few tears. However, if you feel that you will be too strongly overcome by your emotions, have a back-up plan in place where someone you trust can deliver the eulogy for you. Give them a copy well in advance if you feel this could be an issue.
  • Have a glass of water as well as tissues handy.


Writing an obituary is a difficult and emotional task. First, you will need to gather information from family and friends of the deceased about their childhood, education, career  hobbies and interests. As well, speak to the funeral home to receive any important information on the date, time and location of any funeral service, or other funeral related events. Using the template will help make the process easier and will ensure you write a properly structured obituary.

Instructions: Replace all items in ITALICS below with the appropriate information.


Funeral service will be held at [LOCATION] on [DATE] at [TIME] with Reverend [NAME] of [CHURCH] officiating. Burial will follow at [CEMETERY NAME], [CEMETERY LOCATION]. Visitation will be held at [LOCATION] on [DATE] at [TIME]. [NAME OF FUNERAL HOME] will be handling the funeral arrangements.

[NAME] was born in [LOCATION OF BIRTH] to [PARENT’S NAMES] on [DATE OF BIRTH]. He/she went to high school at [SCHOOL NAME] and graduated in [YEAR]. He/she went on to earn a degree/certificate in [DEGREE TYPE] from [SCHOOL NAME]. He/she worked as a [JOB TYPE] for [COMPANY] for [NUMBER OF YEARS]. He/she enjoyed [ACTIVITIES/HOBBIES]. He/she received [AWARDS/HONORS] and was involved in [CHARITIES/ORGANIZATIONS].

[NAME] is survived by his/her [RELATION], [NAME] of [CITY].  (List all survivors: spouse children, siblings, parents, grandchildren, nieces and nephews). He/she is preceded in death by his/her [RELATION], [NAME]. (List predeceased: spouse, parents, children and siblings.)

Memorial donations may be made to [ORGANIZATION NAME], [MAILING ADDRESS].  The family wishes to extend their gratitude to [ORGANIZATION/NAME] [FINAL WORDS].

Remember most newspapers charge by the word. This template will help collect some of the information necessary but the funeral director will assist you in getting it finalized and properly assembled.  You can make any adjustments you feel necessary. The funeral director will ask you all the questions needed at the time of the funeral arrangements to prepare an obituary.  He/she will type it and provide it to you to review and make changes. This is an alternative to writing it on your own.